Most of us prepare at the end of the year to make changes for the upcoming year, but what does change really look like? What does transition really look like?

When I think of transition or change, my mind always thinks about the transition of a butterfly.

Whether you’re in business or whatever you strive to be, at first you feel trapped-pretty similar to the cocoon. Most people, when they try new ventures, may feel trapped, stuck or at a dead end because they don’t have a lifeline or a support system. Before I go further into how I plan to change for 2019, I would like to introduce myself.

My name is LaNette and I’m the Founder of Women With Gifts Intl. I originally started this organization with my older cousin Lisa who died of cancer. When we started this organization, our goal was to help other women who had similar backgrounds as ours. At the time we started the organization, we had no idea that Lisa had stomach cancer. From the time of Lisa’s death until now I have used writing and mentoring in order to be a happier me. Because the organization has been a major part of my life, I’m almost taken aback when I’m acknowledged for the work that either I or the organization has does. So I was super honored recently when Restored Ministries and My Everyday Challenges featured us on their website. I’m glad that 2018 allowed me to be transparent for other women looking either at me or up to me.

What I want to change in 2019

In 2018, I spent most of my time feeling suppressed. In 2019, I plan to change my circle of friends. Some of the friendships that I had in 2018 were based on who others expected me to hang around, but in reality, I didn’t have anything in common with some of them. Sadly, I had a lot of FORCED friendships. Some of them were long overdue for breaking up, but I allowed the memories and the expectations of friendships keep me connected to something or someone that wasn’t good for me. On the flipside, 2018 allowed me to shape the dynamics of friendship. In doing so, I also met tons of beautiful friends and supporters of my ideas, that I will gladly carry into 2019 with me.
Words of Wisdom that I would like to pass on to others:

1) Never suppress yourself for anyone.

Regardless of how stupid, goofy or crazy people may say you are-BE YOU!

2) Embrace your own ideas.

Don’t spend time trying to switch up someone else’s ideas to pass them as your own. Embrace your own ideas! Regardless of how stupid they may sound or regardless of how people may not understand your ideas-EMBRACE YOUR OWN IDEAS!

3) Don’t be afraid to explore your ideas.

What’s the worst that could happen? Trust your gut!

As for me, in 2019 I’m going to embrace the butterfly in me. I’m going to be bold and colorful and not have a care in the world. I’ve been sheltered in my cocoon too long!


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14 Replies to “I Transform With the Butterfly Effect

  1. This is beautifully written. My condolences to your cousin, I couldn’t imagine. I totally resonate with dropping friendships. I was friends with someone for awhile and I recently just stopped dealing with her. I didn’t want to force something that wasn’t there anymore.

  2. OMGosh! My feels were all over the place reading this wonderful post about you. I’m sorry about your friend Lisa, you now have all your memories to cherish of her; I’m happy about your insights from 2018 and where they’re taking you in 2019. Sending all the good vibes out to you in everything you do and will be doing this year. ???? ????

  3. So many things I would like to say….

    1. I was the one super honored to be able to feature you and share your story on my blog. You are amazing and your journey is one that is inspiring to all.

    2. You have chosen the butterfly wisely. For your person and your soul are far more beautiful than a butterfly. Native Americans believe that a wish whispered to a butterfly will be granted when the butterfly flies up to the heavens. You my friend are a true butterfly. You are granting wishes for people everyday in the work you do. Those that seek your guidance or help have the fortune of their wishes being delivered to the heavens and answered. We all thank you for the amazing selflessness you portray everyday.

    3. I am blessed everyday at the priceless gift I have in calling you friend.

    May all you do in 2019 be blessed.

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